First & Second Person: I-You



In a conversation, the first-person refers to the speaker(s), while the second-person refers to the listener(s).

When making a conversation, you have to know how to address yourself (I) and the other person (You) using the appropriate pronouns. Which pronouns to use, oftentimes, depending on your and the person's age (generation) and gender.

Here are some of the most common pronouns used in the Vietnamese language: ông, bà, cô, chú, anh, chị, em, con. These pronouns

When talking to someone who is ... Address the person as
male female
Old enough to be your grandparent ông
Old enough to be your parent chú
Old enough to be your older sibling anh chị
Young enough to be your younger sibling em
Young enough to be your child / niece /nephew / grandchild con

a. For instance, when you are talking to a female elder (old enough to be your grandma), you would address her as , and address yourself as con (young enough to be her grandchild). She would in turn, still address herself as  and address you as con, since the roles stay the same.

Sample dialogue:

John: Chào bà. Con là John (= Hello. I'm John)
Granny: Chào con. Bà là Mary (= Hello. I'm Mary)


b. When speaking to a stranger who is around your generation, if their age is unclear, always address the person as if they are older than you (use anh or chị) to show politeness.

Sample dialogue:

John: Chào anh (= Hello)
Taxi driver: Chào anh (= Hello)


c. When talking to someone who is the same age, you can address yourself as mình (I) and address the other person as bạn (You). In this case, the person would address himself or herself as mình (I) and address you as bạn (You).

Sample dialogue:

John: Chào bạn. Mình là John (= Hello. I'm John)
Jane: Chào bạn. Mình là Jane (= Hello. I'm Jane)


d. In formal situations, use tôi to address yourself (I) and use anh or chị to address the other person (You).

Sample dialogue:

John: Chào chị. Tôi là John (= Hello. I'm John)
Jane: Chào anh. Tôi là Jane (= Hello. I'm Jane)